Post 4

Do women need role models? More specifically, do women need female role models? That is, should we see more women in the oil fields, driving long haul truck, resurfacing roads, picking up the garbage, or porting patients around hospitals? The fact is, role models occur in a vacuum. Thus, one should always look up to astronauts! Alright, back to reality: the use of role models is only effective in the minds of the lost or unformed: children, sheep, and the gullible. It's an effort to avoid responsibility for one's choices when one immediately defers to the actions of another as justification for their own actions. It's a sign of immaturity that requires a firm response, not a soft, placating voice that kindly coos "it's okay."

It's not fucking okay. When you fuck up then it is on you*. Take responsibility! Here's what happens when you fuck up: you take responsibility or you refuse to take responsibility. Either way, you, as a human being, will get better at either. One, however, is significantly better for you. You can avoid responsibility until life forces you to take responsibility, and how prepared will you be for it? It's simple. It comes down to honesty. Taking responsibility makes you a noble person. A desirable friend. A good person. Take responsibility, learn to handle the consequences, and appreciate yourself for telling the truth over saving yourself embarrassment. It's a tough choice, but the right choice. When a role model fucks up, what do they get to do? Celebrity allows one to avoid responsibility (e.g., Justin Beiber) with fame and money. It's not being a good role model. So, having men as bad role models is not enough to convince feminists that role models are bad. No! They want female role models. For what? To disappoint (mostly) young girls and lost neofeminists in college?

Blaze your own path. Go fail on your own and learn from those mistakes. Take on the world and challenge people on their statements. If they do not have the logical consistency to back up their claim, call them out on it. Know your data. Make sure your data is valid and reliable. Use it to debunk others. Do not let bullshit sit and fester to the point that on one notices the smell. You'll be mocked, decried, and shunned by others. Who's left? Well, good friends that appreciate you for your methods and process and not your view. Also, it's the internet age: get good friends. You will find them for the same reason. It's a great feeling.

That coming from someone who has lost friends for his views, not for his process.

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Women claim sexism when they are asked if they have a boyfriend/partner, receive a "cat call", are "eyed up" when they wear highly revealing clothing, (are asked out for coffee,) and are grabbed in public spaced. How much of this is honest reporting? None of it. That's not to say these things do not occur, rather, it is up to the individual to manage their own emotions. Well, that's not an easy point to hash out. If a woman is (sexually) assaulted on the street, is this sexism or assault by an opportunist man? If sexism existed to the extent third wave feminists claim, a man grabbing a woman's breast or buttocks, the police or entire justice system would make no effort--zero, none--to follow up on the assault. If a woman is sexually assault on the street out front of a bank, getting on a subway, or on a bus, then there was a camera present that will prove the assault and result in justice for the assault. The act in of itself is not sexism--it is the state/community's response to the incident which is indicative of the level of sexism.

This was an unedited rant. @nrokchi